By: Judy Shaffer, Principal
Last year, while on vacation, I was staked out on the beach at the crack of dawn for the dual purposes of a hopeful dolphin sighting and to feed the seagulls a carefully hoarded pile of French fries from last night’s crab dinner. I had the perfect “office” setup with my beach chair, towels and SPF. With my phone in hand, as I waited, I quickly scrolled through the previous day’s email to see what might require a speedy response. I glanced up, only to realize that the dolphins that I had so longed to see were already passing by in the distance. I then looked to my right to see if my boyfriend had seen them only to witness him attempting to feed the gathering seagulls by carefully positioning French fries between his toes and thrusting his leg up in the air to see who was brave enough to take the bait. At that moment I was struck by an “aha!” moment that I had almost missed two remarkable events because I was answering email.
I’m certainly not alone. Was I really doing work? Well, no. Was I really enjoying my vacation? Well, no. I wasn’t actually present in either moment. I read the other day that Gen-X’ers seek work-life balance, but that Millennials seek work-life integration. The common thread is that we’re all trying to make them both work in tandem with some degree of success.
I’m fortunate to work for a company that offers the tools and flexibility so that both the Gen-X and Millennial crowds can find what they’re looking for. Candidly, even with that level of generosity, it’s still hard to maintain balance. An email from your boss or your neediest client after hours is still an email from your boss or your neediest client. Regardless of the tools that are offered, they aren’t much good if you can’t train yourself to utilize them. We’ve been programmed to think that working the hardest makes for the most success and that working the hardest means working the longest but that theory is turned on its head in reality. Working the smartest makes for the most success. Sometimes it means turning off the email after hours or shifting the work hours around to take your favorite afternoon yoga class. On my next vacation I’m determined to unplug. Will I be fired? I doubt it. Will it change my life? I hope so!